The past few months have seen me gradually lose my ‘writing mojo’ again. It has been awful! Those of you that have followed me for some time will know that this isn’t the first time that I have misplaced it. For a little while, I had no energy to get up and find my mojo. And after a bit, I realised I needed to find out why. After much thought and deliberation, all I could come up with was loss of confidence, lack of time and pure laziness!
So how did I remedy this? Well, one word – Friends! (Cue The Rembrandts ‘I’ll be there for you’ song)
My eight other Romaniac buddies have been a HUUUUGE support in the last year and have really kept me going. And after the very very quiet patch I have just been through, their unwavering encouragement and support has, yet again, reunited me with my ‘writing mojo’ and rekindled my love for the written word. It’s always been there, but sometimes, when times are hard, it can get a little lost. But there were my Romaniac buddies, shining a huge light for it to find its way back.
Here’s how they help me:
Joey Tribiani – ‘How you doin’?
Whenever times are hard and there’s just no words or ideas milling around in my head, they are always there to ask how I’m doing. If I’m struggling with a piece that I’m working on, I’ll have regular ‘how’s it going?’ from them – this comes in very handY to keep me going. And even when it’s just a bad day due to illness, or there are more personal issues, a simple ‘How you doin’?’ from them just lets me know they are thinking of me.
Phoebe Bouffet – ‘Smelly Cat’
Now this in no way applies to the pride of cats that between us, we all moan, praise and laugh about. There are a few other pets thrown in for good measure but feline friends definitely take the ruling out of the nine of us.
No, what I mean by reference to Phoebe is the music. We recently spoke on our blog about how we connect to emotions and use them in writing (here) and music was one thing most of us agreed on. Whenever we are stuck, or down, or even just feeling happy and want to share it, we paste links of music to eachother. Laura being the one to do this more frequently! 🙂
Monica Gellar: SUCK IT UP!
See, I’m sure you all think, ‘oh those Romaniac ladies are very nice, aren’t they pleasant,’ and yes, I like to think we are. But behind closed doors, we can also be right bossy little madams! This is a good thing, honestly. And I think this is a huge reason as to why I’m normally only wallowing and not writing for short spaces of time – otherwise they shout at me! Whilst nice, gentle encouragement is good and can help steer you back in the right direction, sometimes a short, sharp, ‘stop wallowing and get on with it, woman!’ is needed. And those girls aren’t afraid to say it.
Ross Gellar: Study and learn
Ross is a professor and teaches students. He values the importance of learning and working hard. This is something I think us Romaniacs have in common. We all love to learn new skills and we regularly try to attend lots of workshops, events and conferences to help us craft our skill and better our writing. If I want to know something, I can ask these girls and between them all, I will get sent links to websites and blogs to help me either find out the answer, or attend a workshop where I will learn it. We live all over England, none of us are particularly close in where we live, so it is really handy when one girl says, ‘ooh, so and so is doing a talk/workshop near me,’ – it’s also handy to have a sofa/bed/floor to kip on if that talk is particularly far away!
Chandler Bing: Jokes!
Whether you are feeling down, bogged down with work or running around doing errands, us girls always have time for a joke. It lightens the mood and just makes everyone feel happy. Sometimes they are random jokes when one of us is feeling weird – which happens alot! – and other times it may be linked in with something one of us has said that has followed onto a joke. Quite a few times I have been the butt of the joke….this links in with…
Rachel Green: Ditsy love!
The reason that I am normally the butt of a joke or comment is normally when I am being ditsy – this happens a lot. I am one of the youngest of the group, and maybe a little less worldly wise, and I often say/do things that are, shall we say, a little ditsy. I am the most naive out of the group and take a lot of things at face value. I am gullible and ALWAYS the last to ‘get’ the jokes! Even when I am the butt of them!
But they all still love me and because I can be a bit ‘airy fairy’ sometimes, they mother me and look out for me.
And that’s why I love each and every one of them so much. I owe my persistence my confidence and my slightly crazy nature to every one of them.
Thank you girls!
(Now they are probably going to yell at me for procrastinating and writing this blog post when I should be drafting the plot outline to my WiP!)